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5 Secrets to Attract The Opposite Sex 
Like Ants To Strawberry Jam.
By Lisa Daily

Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the dating game?

We surveyed a variety of top experts and learned five 
unbelievably effective secrets to make the opposite sex come 

Here's how you can use them to work for you:


Want to be the one who gets noticed?   Stand in the center of the 
room.  According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several 
books and nationally-known expert in the field of spatial psychology, 
where you are in a room (and what you're doing) has a lot  to do with 
your ability to attract the opposite sex.  Where should you be for the 
highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? 
Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around 
a bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake...) 

If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the 
corners on the bar.  Not only will you meet more people, but, 
according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the 
corners as well.  Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You'll 
feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place 
to be seen?  Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table.  That 
hot stranger approaching your table and asking "may I join you" 
only happens in the movies.


What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to 
approach you? 

According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman,  Director of the 
Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, 
women are attracted to men wearing the color blue.  And why 
wouldn't we be?  According to Eiseman, guys who frequently 
wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there."  The 
blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship -- 
someone who's dependable, momogomous and can match his 
own clothes. 

And what about the ladies?  Eiseman says women should wear 
a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable.  The 
color is "very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy 
glow," and according to Eiseman, projects  "a little vulnerability 
which brings out something protective in men."

Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can't handle 
strong women?  Try a deep red, burgundy or plum.  Men who 
aren't attracted to strong women will steer clear.

Of all the colors, red is the most sensual.  But, wear red with 
caution.  "Red is the color of sex and power," says Eiseman. 
Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of 
men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful 
women.  Sure, you'll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, 
but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn't threatened 
by the fact that you make a bigger salary.

Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away 
from what Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar yellow-green" 
which is said to repel both sexes equally.


How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex? 
If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable. 
According to nationally-respected body language expert and 
professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a 
"safe" (read approachable) target.  How do you accomplish that? 
Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.) 
Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember, we're trying to
get a man to come over and talk to us."  She explains, "you have 
to show you have room for someone else in your life."

In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable women should 
stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart  with toes 
pointed slightly inward. "  Other key moves, the nod and the head 
tilt - signal you're listening to what the other person has to say.

For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction 
of women.  To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, 
and toes pointing outward.  Feel free to take up some space.  For 
men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or who appear to be 
too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome
out for a spin.  According to Mehrabian, men should "try wearing 
bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing," hold your 
head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more 

Body language tips for both sexes:  Don't fold your arms and 
don't chew on gum, ice or your fingernails.  According to Wood, 
the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which 
are very attractive emotions.


Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the 
most important things you can do to make yourself more 
attractive (and approachable) is to smile.  Not a great big plastic 
game-show smile, just your normal "I'm having a great time and 
I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick.  According to Wood, 
"the smile is the international signal of friendliness."


Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and 
vanilla with love.  To make the scents work for you, try baking 
some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your 
date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume 
(there's a fabulous one called "Man Magnet" at 

Aromatherapy  experts have 
long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac.  According to 
Laura Davimes, aromatherapy  and herb expert , and owner 
of Herban Avenues, "certain aromatic plants exude oils similar 
to our own sexual secretions or pheromones.  Wearing 
cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like 
substances and dramatically increases attraction."

The scent of a woman?  Women, according to a recent study, 
are attracted to a black licorice scent.  So, be sure to pick up 
licorice or Good 'n Plenty at the theater snack bar.  And, if you're 
at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, 
don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.


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