to Attract The Opposite Sex
Like Ants To Strawberry Jam.
By Lisa Daily
Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the
We surveyed a variety of top experts and learned
unbelievably effective secrets to make the
opposite sex come
Here's how you can use them to work for you:
1. BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
Want to be the one who gets noticed?
Stand in the center of the
room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian,
the author of several
books and nationally-known expert in the field
of spatial psychology,
where you are in a room (and what you're doing)
has a lot to do with
your ability to attract the opposite sex.
Where should you be for the
highest impact and the greatest number of
Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing
up and moving around
a bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet
for goodness sake...)
If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place
to be is at one of the
corners on the bar. Not only will you
meet more people, but,
according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to
gravitate toward the
corners as well. Interesting conversation
AND a full drink? You'll
feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven.
The worst place
to be seen? Hanging out near the wall
or sitting at a table. That
hot stranger approaching your table and asking
"may I join you"
only happens in the movies.
2. THE COLOR LURE
What color can you wear to compel the opposite
According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman,
Director of the
Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors
For Your Every Mood,
women are attracted to men wearing the color
blue. And why
wouldn't we be? According to Eiseman,
guys who frequently
wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant
and always there." The
blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term
someone who's dependable, momogomous and can
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says
women should wear
a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable.
color is "very flattering to most skin tones,
it gives you healthy
glow," and according to Eiseman, projects
"a little vulnerability
which brings out something protective in men."
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who
strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy
or plum. Men who
aren't attracted to strong women will steer
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual.
But, wear red with
caution. "Red is the color of sex and
power," says Eiseman.
Red adds an element of excitement and attracts
two types of
men - men interested in sex, and men attracted
women. Sure, you'll probably have to
fend off a lot of freaks,
but you could also end up attracting a guy
that isn't threatened
by the fact that you make a bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away?
from what Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar
which is said to repel both sexes equally.
3. BODY TALK THAT REELS 'EM IN
How do you use body language to attract the
If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself
According to nationally-respected body language
professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want
to make yourself a
"safe" (read approachable) target. How
do you accomplish that?
Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign
of power and superiority.)
Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember,
we're trying to
get a man to come over and talk to us."
She explains, "you have
to show you have room for someone else in
In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable
stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches
apart with toes
pointed slightly inward. " Other key
moves, the nod and the head
tilt - signal you're listening to what the
other person has to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively
draws the attraction
of women. To attract women, stand with
your feet 6-10 inches apart,
and toes pointing outward. Feel free
to take up some space. For
men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge,
or who appear to be
too submissive to attract women, try taking
your Y chromosome
out for a spin. According to Mehrabian,
men should "try wearing
bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or
clothing," hold your
head up, and speed up your speech and gestures
to be more
Body language tips for both sexes: Don't
fold your arms and
don't chew on gum, ice or your fingernails.
According to Wood,
the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration,
neither of which
are very attractive emotions.
4. THE POWER OF A SMILE
Psychology and body language experts agree
that one of the
most important things you can do to make yourself
attractive (and approachable) is to smile.
Not a great big plastic
game-show smile, just your normal "I'm having
a great time and
I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick.
According to Wood,
"the smile is the international signal of
5. TEMPTING WITH SCENT
Studies show that men associate the scents
of cinnamon and
vanilla with love. To make the scents
work for you, try baking
some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour
date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla
(there's a fabulous one called "Man Magnet"
Aromatherapy experts have
long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac.
Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb
expert , and owner
of Herban Avenues, "certain aromatic plants
exude oils similar
to our own sexual secretions or pheromones.
cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence
substances and dramatically increases attraction."
The scent of a woman? Women, according
to a recent study,
are attracted to a black licorice scent.
So, be sure to pick up
licorice or Good 'n Plenty at the theater
snack bar. And, if you're
at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister
on your shirt,
don't worry about the stain, just consider
it your lucky night.