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Chatting
Online
By
Lisa Daily
Dear
Lisa,
I have
been chatting online to a notorious NBA player for over year, who lives
near me, and who is married. We started chatting as friends.
We haven't met in person, but I went to one of his games and he noticed
me. He’s called me one time, and confessed he’d driven by my house.
He’s a bible thumper, follows the bible literally, and says he’s happy
with his marriage. The last thing I want to be is a home-wrecker.
He
pushes away from me because he thinks he’s getting too close. He’s
ignored me for weeks and then popped back into my life. I absolutely
agree with his protocol, but I find myself already in love with him. I
am obsessed with him. He’s playing with my emotions and says he can't
stop thinking about me. He says he would meet me face to face
but he’s afraid we might hook up. I don't know what to do.
I really like him and always wonder if I have a chance.
Bouncing
Around
Dear
Bouncing,
This
guy is an E! True Hollywood Story just waiting to happen.
That
is, assuming he’s the real deal, and not some 13-year-old kid yanking your
chain from his basement in Dubuque, Iowa.
You
asked me if I think you have a chance. You have a chance, alright:
The chance to become the next Monica Lewinsky.
Sweetie,
if there’s a Mrs., he’s Mr. Wrong. You said yourself that you don’t
want to be a home-wrecker, so don’t. Nothing good can come of dating
a married man. Even if he left his wife, (he won’t) and married you,
(he won’t) your relationship with him would have a less than 5% chance
of surviving for just one year. (After which, he would likely get
right back into his old patterns and start screwing around on you.)
Not
to mention the two of you would be responsible for screwing up the lives
of at least three people – more if kids are involved.
You
may agree with his protocol, but I think it sucks. If he’s married,
he shouldn’t be flirting with women in chat rooms. He shouldn’t be
calling the women he meets in chat rooms. And he most certainly should
not be doing late night drive-by’s.
Here’s
my advice to you: Cut off all contact with him immediately.
As
far as the bible thumping goes, I’m pretty sure there’s more than one passage
in the good book about being faithful and honorable to your wife.
Maybe he has a different version than I’m familiar with, but the book he’s
thumping sounds more like one you might pick up in a convenience store
in a plain brown wrapper.
Kisses,
Lisa
Dear
Lisa
I like
this guy a lot. I call him, but he doesn't call me, and every time
I call him he always wants to hang up quick. I was wondering, is there
a way I can get him wrapped around my finger? Also do you have to be beautiful
in order to have a cute guy fall in love with you?
Need
a Calling Plan
Dear
Calling Plan,
First,
do you have to be beautiful in order for a cute guy to fall for you?
No.
As
for your phone issues: Never call him first, and never return his
calls. Why? In order for this guy to be truly intrigued by you, you’ll
have to let him do the pursuing. He’ll be the one thinking of you,
and thinking of a good reason to call you. He’ll be the one planning what
to say, and wondering if you really want to talk to him. Best of
all, every time you talk on the phone, it will be because he wants to talk
to you. You’ll never catch him at a bad time, or when he’s in the
middle of clipping his nose hairs or watching wrestle-mania, so you’ll
always have his full attention and desire.
And
as for how to get a guy wrapped around your finger, yes, I do know how
to do that, but it’s WAY too much information to squeeze into one tiny
little column. If you want to know all of my man-snagging secrets,
you’ll have to read Stop Getting Dumped!
Kisses,
Lisa
Dating
expert Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped!
Available
at www.stopgettingdumped.com and bookstores everywhere.
Got
a dating question? Ask Lisa at: asklisa@stopgettingdumped.com
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