101: 10 Tips to Make 'em Drool
don't have to look like Jennifer Anniston or Brad Pitt to make the
(or girls) go gaga. All you need is your fabulous smile and a few
flirting tips like the ones you'll find below to attract the
sex like paparazzi to a movie star.
women, the key is to look approachable enough for men to feel
in taking a risk. For men, the secret is in showcasing your
(And no, that doesn't mean adjusting yourself or proving
and for all that you are the Belching King.)
eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six
then smile and drop your gaze. Don't stare a hole through the
forehead for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering
look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten
fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it's them
flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of
is absolutely the most effective tool in your flirting toolbox.
and body language experts agree that one of the most
things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and
is to smile. Not a giant plastic used car salesman smile,
your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here"
will do the trick. According to body language expert Patti Wood,
smile is the international signal of friendliness." Guys, if you
eyes and smiles with a woman three or more times in an evening,
have received a clear signal that she's interested. Make your move,
on over and start up a conversation. If you don't, somebody else
Be a Vampire's Best Friend
of the most winning flirting techniques a woman can use is the
of her neck. This can be done with a head tilt to one side,
classic hair flip, or my personal favorite, the over-the-shoulder
- the asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your
and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder
is extra-effective because it's sexy and it sends a signal to your
that they are worth a second look.
Preen Like A Peacock
tend to preen or groom ourselvessubconsciously when we're attracted
someone, by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our
in a compact, or straightening a tie. Try combining a
gesture with a smile and a gaze. Another trick? Toss your
to one side. This classic move is a double whammy that combines
and a flash of neck. Need we say more?
men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips
they signal youth, sex and fertility. How to make the most of
For women, try wearing a red lipstick (red has been shown to
a man's heart rate), which not only gives your lips that
color, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth
A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making
lips look moist and kissable. For both men and women, try licking
lips (subtlety is key here, you don't want to look like you're
out for a porno flick.) or biting your lower lip - both are
effective flirting behaviors.
Cross Your Legs (Women)
and uncrossing your legs is another surefire flirting
especially if you're wearing high heels. The act of crossing
legs is quite seductive to men, and it makes them desire to see
Another key seduction trick is slipping your heel out of your
and dangling it on your toes. The arch of the foot sends a sexual
and mimics a woman's curves, and sends a man's heart racing.
Square Your Shoulders (Men) Women are biologically attracted
dominant men, so stand tall with your shoulders back. Feel free to
up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or
appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y
out for a spin. According to spatial psychologist Albert
men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative
or clothing," hold your head up, and speed up your speech
gestures to be more assertive.
Let Your Feet Do The Talking
to body language expert Wood, you want to make yourself a
(read approachable) target. Wood says "to be very approachable
should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with
pointed slightly inward. "
men, appearing more dominant effectively draws female attention. To
women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes
Be a Mimic
mirror each other's body language when they are attracted with
gestures, voice volume, etc. Try subtly mimicking your flirting
behavior. If she leans forward, you lean forward. If he
his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring
behavior, they'll begin to feel as though the two of you are
and "in tune."
Focus, Focus, Focus.
you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips
deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as they
speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are saying.
is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds you
fascinating. Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt -
you're listening to what the other person has to say. Smiling
laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put
person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another
flirting technique is low-level touching such as brushing the
to tell if a woman is flirting with you? Look for the signs above,
extended eye contact, low-level touching and laughing.
to tell if a guy is flirting with you? Again, the signs above are
indicators, but men tend to take things a little further by
their social status with moves that can include, flashing
and talking about their occupations and (you guessed it) cars.
Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped!
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