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Flirting 101: 10 Tips to Make 'em Drool 
By Lisa Daily

You don't have to look like Jennifer Anniston or Brad Pitt to make the
guys (or girls) go gaga. All you need is your fabulous smile and a few
surefire flirting tips like the ones you'll find below to attract the
opposite sex like paparazzi to a movie star.

For women, the key is to look approachable enough for men to feel
comfortable in taking a risk. For men, the secret is in showcasing your
masculinity. (And no, that doesn't mean adjusting yourself or proving
once and for all that you are the Belching King.)

1) Lock Eyes 

Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six
seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don't stare a hole through the
guy's forehead for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering
come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten
to fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it's them
you're flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of

2) Smile 

Smiling is absolutely the most effective tool in your flirting toolbox.
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most
important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and
approachable) is to smile. Not a giant plastic used car salesman smile,
just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here"
face will do the trick. According to body language expert Patti Wood,
"the smile is the international signal of friendliness." Guys, if you
lock eyes and smiles with a woman three or more times in an evening,
you have received a clear signal that she's interested. Make your move,
head on over and start up a conversation. If you don't, somebody else

3) Be a Vampire's Best Friend 

One of the most winning flirting techniques a woman can use is the
exposure of her neck. This can be done with a head tilt to one side,
the classic hair flip, or my personal favorite, the over-the-shoulder
glance - the asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your
neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder
move is extra-effective because it's sexy and it sends a signal to your
target that they are worth a second look.

4) Preen Like A Peacock 

We tend to preen or groom ourselvessubconsciously when we're attracted 
to someone, by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our
lipstick  in a compact, or straightening a tie. Try combining a
grooming gesture  with a smile and a gaze. Another trick? Toss your
hair to one side.  This classic move is a double whammy that combines
preening and a  flash of neck. Need we say more?

5) Lip Service 

Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips
because they signal youth, sex and fertility. How to make the most of
it? For women, try wearing a red lipstick (red has been shown to
increase a man's heart rate), which not only gives your lips that
youthful color, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth
whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making
your lips look moist and kissable. For both men and women, try licking
your lips (subtlety is key here, you don't want to look like you're
trying out for a porno flick.) or biting your lower lip - both are
extremely effective flirting behaviors.

 6) Cross Your Legs (Women) 

Crossing and uncrossing your legs is another surefire flirting
technique, especially if you're wearing high heels. The act of crossing
your legs is quite seductive to men, and it makes them desire to see
more. Another key seduction trick is slipping your heel out of your
shoe and dangling it on your toes. The arch of the foot sends a sexual
message and mimics a woman's curves, and sends a man's heart racing. 

7) Square Your Shoulders (Men)   Women are biologically attracted to
more dominant men, so stand tall with your shoulders back. Feel free to
take up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or
who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y
chromosome out for a spin. According to spatial psychologist Albert
Mehrabian, men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative
hairstyles or clothing," hold your head up, and speed up your speech
and gestures to be more assertive.

8) Let Your Feet Do The Talking 

According to body language expert Wood, you want to make yourself a
"safe" (read approachable) target. Wood says "to be very approachable
women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with
toes pointed slightly inward. " 

For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws female attention. To
attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes
pointing outward. 

 9) Be a Mimic 

People mirror each other's body language when they are attracted with
similar gestures, voice volume, etc. Try subtly mimicking your flirting
target's behavior. If she leans forward, you lean forward. If he
scratches his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring
someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel as though the two of you are
connected and "in tune."

 10) Focus, Focus, Focus.

Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips
to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as they
are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are saying.
There is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds you
utterly fascinating. Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt -
signal you're listening to what the other person has to say. Smiling
and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put
another person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another
effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as brushing the
shoulder or elbow.

How to tell if a woman is flirting with you? Look for the signs above,
especially extended eye contact, low-level touching and laughing. 

How to tell if a guy is flirting with you? Again, the signs above are
fantastic indicators, but men tend to take things a little further by
demonstrating their social status with moves that can include, flashing
cash and talking about their occupations and (you guessed it) cars.

Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped! 
All you need to know to make men fall madly in love with you and marry “The One” in 3 years or less.  At bookstores everywhere.
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